You Know the Honeymoon's Over When...

I love you and all, but I'm going to be over here.  M'kay? 

 1. It's not a big deal if you are in the other room for hours on end doing Something Else. I've been blogging for 145 minutes (not that I'm counting) and not one interruption or meaningful glace asking me to sit by him and watch whatever's on TV.  

2. You shower, dress and change clothes with the door open and openly in front of each other.  And you don't suck in anything.  Even when you gain 15 pounds because your stupid ankle injury  basically makes you a couch potato for nine months and the idea of exercise in the winter makes your bones ache.

3. You tell the other person what you really think of their outfit.  And they don't take offense. He threw out all my  polo shirts because he thought it made me look like a boy.  I threw out some hideous work shirts that looked like they were from the 90's - and probably were.  That or the person picking them out was color blind.  Or just lacked taste at that particular moment while shopping.

I smell like WHAT?!?

4. Likewise, you tell the other person when they are smelly.  And they still don't take offense.

5. Gas is not a big deal.  It happens.  And most of the time it's damn funny.  Unless it smells. Then go away from me.  And when you come back, shake it out.  There's nothing funny about a smelly tail.

You're listening, but you don't HEAR me.
I HEAR you.  So do the Gazelles, the Lions, the Zebras...

6. You get mad, frustrated, fight and argue but never worry about breaking up or anything being a Deal Breaker.  You're in it to win it.  And most of the fights are for what you think will help you both win.  After all, make up sex will always be awesome.

7. You don't say you're sorry, buy something sweet and move on when those crappy, frustrating moments happen.  You listen, you learn, you get mad at yourself for letting it happen and you both try harder to be better partners.



8. The idea of spending a weekend alone or apart does not make your heart ache.  It makes you think about where you'd go and how fast you can pack a bag. And getting word of a weekend work trip alone sounds very similar to angels singing.

9. You're okay with each other having other people as friends and spending time with them is definitely agreeable.  As long as she's not as pretty as me and he's not as handsome as him.  Jealousy isn't a good color on anyone.

10. Gifts are no longer well-thought well-researched, analyzed and agonized over.   You make mutual decisions based on what you want and then buy each other candy and junk food as "surprises."  Win!
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The Honeymoon may be over - and has been with me and Captain for a long time - but that only means that life is getting real and that you're no longer pretending to be the person you think they want you to be.  You show the real You full-time.  You make a real life together and work on real issues and real foundation-building milestones.  The Honeymoon was good, but this part is the best yet.